I knew it would happen at some point, but I wish I had been more ready for it, more prepared. Someone told me off while leaving a restaurant today because Lucas’ fussing apparently “ruined her lunch”.
My sister, my friend, her three month old son, Lucas and I and were at lunch today and although we met on the early side (just before noon) and had a great table towards the front of the restaurant and in a corner with no one siting near us, both of the babies took their turns being loud and a bit out of sorts. As we like to say, if it’s not one of them, it’s the other. Mine, admittedly more so than the three month old, because as I have mentioned, he has discovered he has a voice and that by using it he can get more attention.
My sister and I played “pass the baby” and played, fed, engaged and entertained Lucas as much as we possibly could and for the most part, I didn’t think he was being too terrible or any louder than usual. As a new mommy, I am still VERY sensitive to every noise he makes in public and try to minimize his volume as best I can. I can’t even barely stand it when he screams out or fusses, why would anyone else?
We each had an entree and a cocktail and were in the establishment for maybe an hour and a half. We caught up and exchanged holiday gifts and had a very nice time until we got up to leave when a woman from across the room yelled out; “Thanks ladies, you ruined our lunch”. I can only assume she was referring to our babies and their noises and I was completely shocked and wasn’t sure if I had heard her correctly. My sister said, “Excuse me?” and she repeated the statement, to which I then said very snidely, “It was my pleasure.”, which I now realize was a lame come back, but I was so speechless. Who says something like that?! Oh, I know, someone who is either too selfish to have children of her own or who believes in the philosophy that children are to be seen and not heard, which is completely ridiculous. Whatever the case may be, it was out of line and rude and I am still in shock! I am also angry. Angry that I let it upset me so much, angry that I am going to be even more sensitive the next time I go out to eat and angry that people like that woman exist in this world. Where is her empathy, sympathy and compassion?
The best is yet to be and next time, I’ll have a better reaction and response.