We Remembered

We remembered.

We avoided eye contact at first.

We got dressed and put on make-up.

We went to brunch and toasted with champagne.

We enjoyed a little retail therapy and indulged in sweet treats. Both helped for a little while.

We received dozens of beautiful flowers and at least a 100 of other tokens of love and well wishes throughout the day in the form of phone calls, text messages, Facebook and Twitter posts. Each one helped immensely.

We listened to their favorite music and smiled.

We talked about the year ahead and what they would be missing.

We drew animals and painted shapes with Lucas and giggled.

We sat around the dining room table and devoured the comfort food my husband prepared. There were more toasts.

We looked through the sympathy cards we were sent four years ago. Many I had not read before. All of them heartfelt.

We went to a movie and sat side by side in the dark and laughed in all the same places.

We hugged.

We cried.

We remembered.

Another anniversary come and gone.

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18 Responses to We Remembered
  1. Minivan Mama
    October 18, 2011 | 10:35 am

    This tugged at my heartstrings. I’m sorry for your loss.

    • Tonya
      October 18, 2011 | 4:24 pm

      Thank you! My sister and I ended up having a pretty good day, considering.

  2. Heather
    October 18, 2011 | 12:38 pm

    I’ sorry for your loss. :( But I’m really glad you and your sister have each other.

    • Tonya
      October 18, 2011 | 4:24 pm

      I would be lost without my sister!

  3. tayarra
    October 18, 2011 | 12:39 pm

    Sounds like a great way to tribute them. I’m sure they wanted you all to be close and it sounds like you are. Hugs to both of you.

    • Tonya
      October 18, 2011 | 4:26 pm

      Thanks, Tayarra. We are very close and it was good that we could be together on Saturday.

  4. Nicole
    October 18, 2011 | 12:58 pm

    I understand this all too well. Especially the days you actually have to remind yourself to breathe in & out. You find yourself forgetting to exhale and you catch yourself thinking for a moment, “How long have I been holding my breath?!” Remind yourself: In, out, rise & repeat. Much love to you & your sister.

    • Tonya
      October 18, 2011 | 4:25 pm

      Thanks, Nichole. Yes, sometimes just remembering how to breathe is difficult. Luckily, my sister and I were together.

  5. Kimberly
    October 18, 2011 | 1:15 pm

    This sounds like a great way to remember such wonderful people. I know they’re with you, watching your family grown. Sending hugs to you.

    • Tonya
      October 18, 2011 | 4:25 pm

      Thanks, Kim! I hope you right. :)

  6. Alison@Mama Wants This
    October 18, 2011 | 4:50 pm

    A lovely tribute to your parents, I know how much you and your sister miss them. I hope each passing year will be less painful. xo

    • Tonya
      October 18, 2011 | 8:45 pm

      Thanks, Alison. We do too!

  7. Robin @ Farewell, Stranger
    October 18, 2011 | 7:56 pm

    I’m so glad you did that instead of letting the day just go by and not acknowledging the loss.

    I think Kim’s right. :)

    • Tonya
      October 18, 2011 | 8:46 pm

      As much as we would have rather had spent the day in jammies in front of the TV, it was the right thing to do to get dressed, get out and feel. I’m so glad that my sister and I had/have each other.

  8. Jessica
    October 18, 2011 | 11:21 pm

    I’m so happy that you have your sister and you two are so close for sad days like this one.

  9. tracy@sellabitmum
    October 19, 2011 | 4:21 am

    It’s so wonderful that your sister is near. I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs, friend.

  10. Shell
    October 19, 2011 | 3:30 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss.

  11. Jessica
    October 20, 2011 | 6:41 am

    I wish that you didn’t have this day each year but I am SO glad you have your sister to remember with you. Sounds like you spent the day the best way that you could, together.

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