Tell her it has been far too long since we’ve seen her beautiful face or heard her deep laughter.
Make sure she knows we miss her.
Tell her we hear her; every single tear and every single plea and we wish we could provide the answers she seeks.
Tell her to trust in her heart that we are always by her side, even if she can’t see us and that whenever she feels a cool gentle breeze on a warm day or spots a hummingbird in the most peculiar of places, that is us; whenever the smile on a stranger’s face makes her feel at ease or she hears one of our family’s favorite songs on the radio, that is us too. We are all around quietly guiding and watching her.
Tell her how pleased we are with the woman she is becoming and the direction her life has taken. Assure her that her future is brilliant and that she should hold on to her dreams with fierce determination and with a little luck and a lot of hard work, they will come true.
Tell her there will be more heartache for her, but nothing that she is unable to withstand. Make her believe that she is so much stronger than we ever realized.
Let her her know that in tough times, it is okay to lean on you, Tonya, that though your exterior is tough, you feel as much as she does and will always be there for her. You are sisters and she needs to know how much you love her and that you always have her best interests at heart.
Tell her that your son is… well, there really are no words. Lucas is sublime and the perfect antidote for the sadness you both must feel since we’ve been gone. We are so grateful for his presence. He is wise beyond his years, enjoy him.
We don’t have to tell either of you how short life is or how it can change in an instant, you both know that now, better than anyone. We were not ready to go. Please live each day to it’s fullest and never forget how loved you are.
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Knowing it would defy all logic and reason, it’s an interesting concept, so if my parents could reach me, I believe this is what they want me to tell my younger sister, Leah.
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This brought tears to my eyes, Tonya. I’m so glad you and your sister have each other.
Thank you, Alison. I don’t know where I’d be without her.
I’m all teary… I’m sure this is exactly what your parents want you to tell Leah and I’m sure it’s exactly what you tell her. You’re a fabulous big sister to Leah, just as Leah is a great little sister to you. Sending the two if you big big hugs and loads of love XOXO
Thank you. I appreciate your kind words, Sophie.
Such an amazing post Tonya and what a gift to each other you and your sister are.
Thank you, Jessica. My sister and I are blessed to have one another.
Tonya? This is beautiful and such a tear jerker!
Thank you, Galit. It was harder to compose than I thought it would be. By the end, I was crying too.
so gorgeous, Tonya. I am so sorry that your parents have to write letters from heaven. I know that feeling so intimately.
When my dad died, I often tell people that I lost my daddy, but my sister and brother really lost the “other half of themselves” and I am always telling them that our dad can see them, he’s so proud of them, he knows that their heart is broken and missing a part of itself (My heart will feel the same when my mom is gone) and he loves them so much.
this letter just made me think of all the things my dad would want my siblings to hear, maybe I’ll write them a letter. Thank you for the inspriration.
hugs to you my friend.
xo
Thank you for your kind comments. This was a hard post to write, but I truly believe this is what my parents would want my sister (and I ) to know.
Tear jerker alert!! So beautiful Tonya!
Thanks, Rachel. xo
Beautiful.
Thank you, Renee. I appreciate you finding the time to visit, I know you have your hands full. Hope life with two is going wonderfully. xoxo
heartbreaking and beautiful. and exactly the right thing to tell your sister.
Thank you. I appreciate that very much.
Absolutely beautiful.
Thanks so much, Julie.
My heart aches reading this and I’m overwhelmingly comforted at the same time. I know that they could have written this. I long to hear their voices. I honestly don’t even want much more than one simple hour with them again. I crave to hear them tell me they love me and are proud of me and will always be there for us. I want hugs.
I am blessed beyond measure to have a sister like you. I would be in a very different place now if I didn’t have you in my life. SO thank you, thank you, thank you. I love you now more than I ever will and I’m sure that love will only grow. XOXO
-your sister, Leah
I’m glad you weren’t freaked out by this. Letters from *heaven* could be misconstrued as creepy. I truly believe this is everything that Mom & Dad want you to know. I love you, Leah. xoxo
This touched my heart in a profound way. I have no doubt that your mom and dad are very proud of you both. Although we can take no credit, David and I are proud of you too. And Lucas…there are no words.
Thank you, aunt Gail. Your words mean a lot to us and we are looking forward to seeing you in a couple of days. xo
What a tearjerker but just so beautifully written. I’m sorry that you (and your sister) are in the position of having lost your parents, but I am so glad you have each other.
Thank you for your kind words. I honestly don’t know where I’d be without my sister. It’s hard to believe our parents have been gone almost four years.
You are lucky to have each other. The bond of sisters is an amazing one. I love my sister and don’t know what I would do without her.
I could not agree more.
This is absolutely amazing. So beautifully written.
Thank you very much.
You gave me goosebumps reading this…chills. In a good way, and in a sad way too.
But I love when you write about your parents, what you miss, and how you feel they are incorporated into your life now.
Wow…
Thank you, Sherri, I appreciate you reading, your kind comments and your friendship.
This is so beautiful, Tonya. Your parents must be proud of both you and Leah.
Thank you, Renee, I hope you’re right.
Lovely post Tonya. Just read some of the other posts about your parents. So sorry about that. I’m sure they are glad that you and Leah are looking out for each other.
Thank you, Tim. There is no doubt about it, I am very lucky to have my sister.
Tonya this is beautiful. It brought tears to my eyes. A sister is an absolutely amazing gift. I love mine with all of my heart and I don’t know where I’d be without her.
You are both so lucky to have each other.
This is simple and beautiful. I can’t imagine what it must be like to have lost your parents, but this letter makes me realize how important all those things are. I’m sure they would want you both to know all that. So glad you have each other.
Yes yes yes! I love this and I, like you, believe it’s true. The warm breeze, the friendly stranger, the “lucky” breaks… they are here with us!
WOW T! A++ for the very touching words of wisdom that you feel – incredible writing & concept! Enjoyed reading~
Thank you, I honestly don’t know where I’d be today without my sister.