I am the mother to a young son, but I am a woman and I was a daughter.
I think about having a daughter a lot and quite frankly it scares the hell out of me.
I wonder, how I will I raise a confident, well-rounded, strong, independent (but not too much so) woman?
While I had wonderful and positive parental role models growing up, I did not have the greatest relationship with my mother.
I was told how beautiful I was all the time by both parents and everyone around me and I learned to believe it, but I wish that my parents, in particular my mother, had tried to get to know me better and focus more attention on my other positive characteristics when I was growing up: I could sing, I was a thoughtful friend, very organized, always loved to read, excelled in English Lit, History, French and later Spanish, I was active in student government, landed the lead in school plays and always a starter on school sports teams. But because those traits were never highlighted, it took me many years and a lot of soul searching to realize there is much more to me than my looks.
We put a lot of emphasis in our society on appearance and it’s really a shame….
To read more on how I believe we can raise confident girls, please visit my post today on Smart Mom Style.