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Unfriended

Posted on February 5, 2013 Written by Tonya

I knew of Wendy (formerly Wendy Will Blog) and now Writing a New Story long before I joined The Trend Tribe. I fell in love with her on Pinterest and then I met her in person and couldn’t have been more pleased.

Wendy is native southern Californian, a mom, a breast cancer survivor, breast cancer advocate and has the greatest dimples I’ve probably ever seen. 

I’ve always had a love/hate relationship with Facebook. Not long ago (around election season, I’m quite certain), I unfriended almost 100 friends and not just because of their differing political views, which drove me bananas, but because there was little or no interaction and I didn’t see the point. It was very liberating!

Wendy recently unfriended someone who left a snarky comment on one her photos, here is her letter explaining why. I say she’s justified, what do you think?

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Dear Former Facebook Friend,

You may or may not be wondering why you aren’t seeing my witty updates in your Facebook feed any longer. Do you remember my last one? I had uploaded some twenty or so photos from my 5-year-old’s recent birthday party. The first photo showed an excited little girl, with a smile from ear to ear, wearing a dress she had personally picked out for her special day. In the nineteen other photos that followed you might have seen a few of her posing arm-in-arm with her little girlfriends, one on the lap of her parents, and one of she blowing out her birthday candles. There were also others of the girls working diligently on crafting fabric flowers and draping dress forms with tissue paper creating what they saw as beautiful masterpieces. Maybe you saw those same sweet girls modeling their creations on the pink carpeted runway.

Does any of this sound familiar?

Let me remind you of the comment you posted on that Facebook photo album. You wrote “What 5 year old wants to go to fashion camp? What does walking a red carpet teach those kids? What happened to nature camp? That’s where you should have taken them.”

Fire rose from my belly and, not only did I delete your comment, I gladly unfriended you.

Those pictures were meant for real friends and family not you and your unsolicited opinions on the type of birthday I threw for my kid. What do you care anyway? For your information, fashion camp rocked. Our girls were doing arts and crafts, you idiot. Art teaches kids to be creative and innovative, it allows children to express themselves, and it can help them learn to problem solve. The “fashion show” part of it? It wasn’t superficial but instead a safe experience where they could share their creations while the parents applauded and nurtured their daughters’ creativity and confidence.

Look, I get that you think you are some hipster dude living off the grid. Reality check: You’re on Facebook way too much to be off the grid. You are a sad, pathetic, almost 40 year old drifter still looking to hook up with 22 year olds in Newport Beach on a Thursday night. For years you’ve waxed poetic about whatever in posts far too long for Facebook. Good riddance.

And if you didn’t know? Mama bears bite back.

Peace out jerk-off,

Wendy

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Filed Under: facebook, guest post, Letters For You, The Trend Tribe Tagged With: facebook, guest post, Letters For You, The Trend Tribe, Wendy Nielsen

A Magical Dinner

Posted on February 3, 2013 Written by Tonya

Imagine being seated at a table at one of the most prestigious restaurants in one of the most beautiful places in Orange County and have no clue what is going to be served.

Two weeks ago, I was lucky enough to be included in The Trend Tribe’s Five Crowns Chef’s Supper (#TTT5Crowns) and it was truly a magical evening. Executive Chef Greg Harrison knocked it out of the park! 

My awesome company for the night included fellow tribe members: Nicole, editor-in-chief and founder of The Trend Tribe, Deb, Beth, Wendy, Sarah and Sharon.

When many locals think of Five Crowns they typically think of an old English pup, a stogy, dark place, where aging grandparents celebrate their anniversaries. Nowadays, this couldn’t be further from the truth! Not with Mumford & Sons, Bob Marley and The Lumineers serving as the soundtrack for our evening. The chef and his staff were laid back and dressed casually and could not have been nicer. The service and presentation was also first rate.

I had dined at Five Crowns once before, but nothing could have prepared me for the Chef’s Supper consisting of eight courses that would push my pallet (not to mention my comfort level) to places it had never gone before. 

I’m talking oysters!

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Crystal Point oysters with uni, rice wine and mignonette to be exact. I’m no foodie, so I don’t really know what any of those ingredients are, but I told myself before I sat down that I was going to be adventurous and try everything put in front of me. And I am so glad I did. The oysters were good. A little hard to eat and not nearly as “fishy” as I thought they’d be.

Curious about the other amazing foods I never thought I’d try? Smoked bone marrow served with horseradish and shallot rings, accompanied with a Pimm’s Cup, a delicious, albeit sweet, gin-based drink, invented in 1823 by James Pimm.

And yes, you read that correctly… bone marrow. One of the more interesting dishes of the night, as it was served a bed of smokey wood pieces.

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I devoured the next course: dungeness crab squash blossom with carrot puree and sea beans followed by…

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…another first, Jidori chicken liver mousse, brioche, Andante goat cheese and apple butter. In other words, yum, yum, yum!

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The coup de grâce was the Tomahawk platter: roasted maitake mushroom, salt crusted potatoes, braised kale, onion foam and scallion ash. Served rustic-like on a butcher block. All the flavors were rich and decadent and played so nicely together, especially when washed down with a lovely Salvestrin Estate Cabernet Sauvignon. 

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The next dish was my favorite: beet braised pork ribs served with ricotta cavatelli, baby mixed carrots and Vadouvan meringue popcorn. The pork was so tender it melted in my mouth and I loved the fact that it was paired with Thrillseeker IPA. So apropos.

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Five Crowns is an institution in Orange County, but it’s definitely not your grandparents’ restaurant anymore. If you live in the OC and have never been, or haven’t been in a while, OR are planning a visit here, I urge you to try it out for yourself and if you’re looking for a one-of-a-kind, magical dinning experience, I highly recommend the Chef’s Supper!

Five Crowns
3801 E. Coast Highway
Corona del Mar, CA 92625
Phone: (949) 760-0331

On occasion, contributors of The Trend Tribe – including myself – receive products, compensation and/or services gratis or at discounted rates. This practice does not influence the contributor’s point of view or the outcome of the review. All descriptions are factual and accurately reflect the reviewer’s experience. The opinions are of their own.

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Filed Under: photos, The Trend Tribe Tagged With: dining experience, food, photos, restaurant review, The Trend Tribe

Happy Sighs

Posted on September 10, 2012 Written by Tonya

Apart from spending time with my husband, son, puppy and friends, and maybe reading and working out, the thing that makes me the happiest is listening to Dave Matthews Band.

In fact, there was an amazing moment on my recent trip to Mexico when “#41”, my favorite DMB song came on while a small group of my friends and I were sailing on the Gulf of California and I couldn’t help but dance all over the boat feeling free and light and relaxed and oh so very happy. It was one of those moments that deep sighs are made of and will make me smile for a long time whenever I think of it.

If you know me or have been reading Letters For Lucas for any length of time then you know I am a die-hard DMB fan and never miss a concert when they come through my town.

I am thrilled to be guest posting on The Trend Tribe today with my first ever concert review of Saturday’s Irvine Dave Matthews Band show.

If you have never heard of The Trend Tribe, it is a super cool Web site featuring the latest trends in fashion, travel, events, food and health and it meant a lot to me that Editor-in-Chief, Nicole Standley came to me with this assignment.

Please visit me here today!

I HEART DMB!

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Filed Under: DMB, music, my guest posts, pastime, simple joys, The Trend Tribe Tagged With: DMB, music, my guest posts, pastime, simple joys, The Trend Tribe

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